Spring has sprung!
by Seaside Singleton
So spring has sprung and I’m feeling a lot more positive.
Aldeburgh is feeling less deserted and there are more visitors here at the weekends.
Its funny as a resident of a holiday destination how the number of visitors reflects my mood here.
The love life is a bit less barren and things are looking up in general. Ok, so Ive still got to lose 2kg and there are the beginnings of wrinkles on my neck, but life is too short to be worrying about these sorts things. Looking back on Februarys blog entry I can see that I really do have a lot going for me. Really I am living the dream here by the sea.
So, I made a list at the very beginning of the month of the things Ive got to be thankful for:
-I get to see the sea every day and sometimes witness magical sunrises/sunsets.
-I may be single but Ive got some amazing friends.
-I don’t have to take the tube any where at any point (a recent trip to London reminded me of how awful it is)
-the locals here might be a bit eccentric, but they are extremely interesting and friendly.
-Ive joined a dating site so there is hope of not being left on the shelf at 50!
So following on from my last point I have joined a dating site and taken matters into my own hands in terms of my search for a decent bloke. Writing my profile was surprisingly easy – years working in sales has clearly paid off as you’re essentially selling yourself. It was thinking about what Id come up with afterwards that caused me to worry a little. I haven’t told any wild exaggerations of the truth or lied at all but I was a bit concerned about my pictures…. I used the ones that make me look my thinnest, most glamorous and also a bit younger….but that’s ok right? I have come to the conclusion that this IS ok and that everyone uses their best pictures, particularly women. I guess it’s a bit like knocking off half a stone if someone asks what you weigh or perhaps saying that you are 29 when you might be 30, but 29 sounds a lot younger as its still in ones 20s.
I have found the internet dating scene highly entertaining from a social observation perspective, it seems that there are a lot of ‘perfect husband material’ men out there – if you took their profile descriptions at face value. They are all fun, kind honest with a great sense of humour; none describe their bad habits, or that they can’t cook so I think the best thing to consider is what they DON’T write. It seems that the art to writing these things and navigating ones way through the millions of men is to read between the lines and learn the language of dating sites.
My observations from reading profiles so far are thus:
“Young at heart” = means they have lied about their age or are looking for a much younger girlfriend.
“Easy going” = potentially lazy and lacking in ambition
“Likes nights in/out” = boring, and lacking in imagination, I mean who doesn’t!
“Not looking for anything serious” = wants a one night stand and possibly has a girlfriend
“Sensual” = haven’t quite worked out the meaning of this one, but not keen to find out….
Of course, there are many more I’ve yet to work out but it really is quite addictive….a bit like Ebay for men. I’m hoping that like Ebay, a good find will come along if I’m patient, although patience has never been a strong point (possibly where I’ve been going wrong). I seem to have got the profile right as I’ve had 1000’s of visits to my profile already. I’ve actually got a few dates lined up so will let you know how they go….and if they recognise me from my photographs!